Marriage, what is the debate about anyway?

I find it so funny that the debate of gay marriage always seems to be in the hands of those that are not in the least affected by it. That is especially true in the recent discussions regarding the issue in the US and as always the religious right is at the forefront. The majority of of this group believe it is the end of the family and an attack on their way of life. Society will suffer! Please!

It will not affect them at all if they are indeed straight. They will continue to marry, they will continue to reproduce and they will continue to divorce all on their own. Whether men can marry men and women can marry women will not change that. Canada is the perfect example of the fact that society will not crumble, marriage will not end and the sky won't fall.

Yes, heterosexuals have had the opportunity to do it for as long as anyone can remember. It is hard to give up the idea that you are some how superior because you have been born a certain way and should have the privilege that comes along with that. After all society as we know it has always provided a special positioning to those that have taken the leap into marriage.

Once you are married and have proven to be “stable” I believe the climb up the corporate ladder seems more accessible, partly because of the social status that comes with being married. After all you know that married couples tend to want to socialize more with other married couples. At least that is how I’ve witnessed things from both the perspective of a single person and a married person. Success in business comes mostly from networking and if you are already part of the club, the doors open just a little bit easier in to those offices of power.

Now, I’m not saying that all gays want marriage either. I have read things where it takes away the special type of cult status for many and they don’t feel the need or want to take part in the customs of straight society. However, I find this extremely annoying that this group of gays wants to have their beliefs stop other gays from getting married. After all, it just comes down to allowing those, whether you are gay or straight, from just making up their own mind about the situation.

Why don’t we just stop trying to push our beliefs on others? Be religious, get married have kids if you want. Be as gay as you want, march, have sex with more than one person and don’t by in to the social customs of the day. Whatever you want to be, believe what you need to, just don’t try to decide what others can do with their lives, how they can love and how they decide to express that love, whether it is marriage or some other sort of commitment. Lets just stop and let everyone love the way that best suits them.